Borderline Personality Disorder
People with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) are sensitive and intelligent. In fact, they are so sensitive that it would hurt them tremendously if they felt they had done wrong. Being incapable of feeling that they have done wrong, they project their inner demons onto one or more intimate others, and intermittently torture those others.
Luckily, most of you have never had a Borderline in your life. If you have never been close to a Borderline, you may have difficulty believing what they can do. The reason it was originally termed "Borderline" Personality Disorder was because it bordered the divide between between neurotic and psychotic.
Though psychiatric diagnoses are never perfect, the behaviors generally ascribed to Borderlines include:
Borderline rages are nothing like fights. Borderline rages are not fights, they are attacks without any mercy or empathy. Their purpose is to hurt the other as much as humanly possible, usually verbally, sometimes physically.
The rages alternate with periods where the Borderline is your best friend and lover, seeing deeply into your soul, and seeming to not even remember the rages. Those in relationship with a Borderline are often guilty, along with the Borderline, of acting as if the rage had not taken place once it ends.
If you think you have a Borderline in your life, there is help and support for you:
A psychologist friend once told me that Borderline Personality Disorder is the affliction "that can never see itself". It is disturbing and life changing to be in a relationship with such a split personality, who can alternate creative, loving and friendly companionship with what seems like demonic possession. They would rather destroy others (and themselves), than to maturely heal what they have done.
If you feel that your partner is sometimes an angelic soul mate, and at other times is extremely emotionally abusive, check out the resources mentioned here or contact me.
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